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“The wiseguys in the crowd will undoubtedly say that
a book with the title Should You Marry a Lawyer? ought to be a
very short book indeed. Just two letters should suffice, they would say.
But psychologist Fiona Travis, who is married to a lawyer herself,
didn’t set out to write a book-length lawyer joke. Based on more than 20
years of treating lawyers and their families, she takes an even-handed
look at the challenges of living with someone who works long hours,
endures enormous stress, and is immersed in a profession that values
rationality over emotion. All in all, this is a provocative and
well-written book. It’s a fast and informative read for anyone
interested in improving communication in their marriage.” –
Lawyers Weekly USA
“Ever feel like having a dispute with your lawyer-partner is like
arguing before the U.S. Supreme Court? Dr. Travis explains why this is
the case. She also details why successful lawyering techniques often
clash with the skills needed to nurture a successful relationship and
how to navigate a middle road. Dr. Travis's book is replete with studies
of the legal profession, profiles of attorneys as well as non-lawyer
spouses, and concrete suggestions for making relationships (whether
straight or gay) thrive. Many lawyers and spouses contributed to offer
words of advice.” – ABA’s Student Lawyer Magazine
“No matter how breathtaking the engagement ring, if it's coming from
a lawyer, give it back ... and run At least that is the impression any
bride-to-be (or groom for that matter) would get from the initial
chapters of Should You Marry a Lawyer? Author Fiona Travis is quick to
point out that many of the traits lawyers need to be successful in the
courtroom (aggressive, analytical, direct) are lousy influences on
relationships where couples need to compromise, concede and cooperate.
The workload, the stress and the competitiveness of the profession do
not exactly make lawyers the warm and fuzzy people you want to snuggle
up with at night. Travis notes that lawyers have the highest divorce
rate of any profession. But Travis didn't write this books to bust
wedding bells. All of 162 pages, this is a quick read that does not call
for significant changes by lawyers in their lifestyles to make their
marriages work, but emphasizes the point that cooperation is going to be
far more important to preserving a family life than any skills used to
be successful at work.” – Cleveland Bar Assn’s Law & Fact Magazine
“ I've been married to a lawyer for 40 years. Dr. Travis's book has
great insight, is extremely accurate and offers useful strategies for
many situations. It should be read by all who are married to lawyers ...
and required reading before a marriage license is issued.” – a
Barnes/Noble.com reader
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